What does it feel like to not get the thing you want? And, what if it was something that you give all your energy into and still, it was a NO?
Yes, It hurts like HELL. It’s like your lifelong best-friend backstabbing you. OR maybe in the current generation, your girlfriend #metoo-ing you 😅 when you were really innocent.
Life plays it’s trick upon people and only some of them try to think differently.
If in college, failing in some subjects or finding out that all the hard work you put in getting into one, only lead you to more misery. How would it feel then? Is dropping out of college a good option? Is even suicide the best option?
If you think that suicide can ever solve a problem, then you are wrong buddy. It looks like you have been looking only up to yourself till now and the vast world and it’s people were never looked forward to. When people with only 10% of their body parts working or those who are missing some parts can behave like they can go through life, no matter what happens. Then, what the hell are you thinking!
All your life, you were taught in the wrong way. With parents focusing solely on grades, the schools focusing on how there school can perform better than the next school in the vicinity and society focusing on ” Sharmiji ke bete ne kya kiya or any other ji ne”; disappoint is bound to happen.
No one found time to actually learn what you really want to do. Now, some may laugh at me thinking of what a small kid would know about life. We, the other have years of experience and know what is right or wrong for you. At least, if every one of there decision was influenced by none other he himself/she herself, they wouldn’t regret anything later on. Blaming yourself for your disappointments or failures is never bad. Not doing anything to overcome them is.
What is success? Let’s see an example. I got a job into a top MNC with double digit figure and now my life is all set. Is it? So, few years down the line, my boss calls me and tells me that it was productive working with you and now we have no more need of you. Getting speechless! Yes, this would hurt really bad. Like, what was I doing in here. All my hard work till now put off with a single “NO”. What am I going to do now? Well, I can try for other companies, can’t I? Yes, you can. So, after some 6-12 months, no new job offer, no nothing. Maybe, there’s something wrong with me? Nobody wants me. Even my parents and relatives are treating me like I am burning off their hard-earned money in jerking off.
This is how life works. It takes you to the bottom and then brings you up. The depth of the misery it takes you to directly correlates with the height it’s gonna make you rise up.
Had someone in your life or in your surrounding made you understand how really GOD or life or nature works, you wouldn’t have regretting living each moment. But instead you would have taken it as a new adventure, a new challenge. Isn’t sitting 24*7 on your bed for days, months or even years gonna lead you to the point of boredom. Entertainment has it’s limits, but the human mind doesn’t.
Just believe in the fact that if someone brought you down, there is someone else who is meant to bring you up. That someone may be solely even you yourself. All you need to do is concentrate on which path to follow and work towards it.
Now, someone would say- I did all that and now see where has life brought me, NOWHERE!!. It looks like you didn’t understand my point. It’s not like you can find the correct life path in one GO. If someone found it in one go, then either they were too lucky or they simply weren’t meant to do great things. (Not everyone can be remembered by the next generation, some of us are meant to be left behind).
Never regret! Never ever! Laugh from your mistakes. Laugh at your decisions and continue forward. They were meant to teach you something. Learn from them. Work out your brain to look into your past and find all the moments- Happy or Sad. Happy ones make us enjoy life, be happy. But can you overlook your sad moments of the past and now look at them in a way that how they changed your perspective, your life and how they can guide you further.
If you are thinking that me speaking all that makes me a too great human being, then you are wrong again.
Life treats everyone in the same way. How you take it, is all that matters.
Now, I would really love to hear your thoughts on this and would love if some of you can share your life story. If you want to look into mine, read below.
You now know a bit about me, if you ever read the me section. If someone went to my LinkedIn profile, it’s time to break it down. I wanted to do Mechanical Engineering, life brought me to a point where I had to go with Textile Engineering. In college, my some 7yrs crush on some girl, made me to finally get to let her my feelings and it ended in a “NO” (I felt bad for some months and even years, but when I look at it now, all I know is that I am gonna get someone way better than her. It’s not like she’s a bad person. She didn’t feel anything for me. So, it’s OK. But had she said “YES”, maybe I would have missed out someone much better). Later, I wanted to pursue a minor in Computer Science, it took to to get a minor in Business Management. During Placement season, I wanted to get a Consulting/ Analyst job, it got me a Core Technical job. At IIT’s, if you accept an offer from a certain firm, you are bound to it and can’t change it, while in college. Getting into the job, I made my mind to switch and finally left it too soon. Well, I already got some good interview offers from Analyst profile firms, some even near my home town. So, life’s all set. I just need to go back home and voila. Now, I never went to any of these interviews. You should laugh at me, at this point. Who leaves an opportunity, when it presents itself.
Well, I am confused like everyone else. Am I really pursuing what I truly desire. And what is it that I truly desire.
After months of applying for jobs in various sectors and leaving them in between, it’s like testing your CV. What all jobs can it get you😶. So, an IITian shifted to tutoring undergrads and grads. Wrote a novel. But it’s not like I am writing 24*7, I need to do something else. So,then shifted to a marketing and business development job and then shifted to banking operations job. Still not able to find what to do. Great!
Let’s look towards something else. How about Vedic Astrology. It can solve a lot of problems. But the more confused you are, the more confused your Kundali is like. Studying it for some 3 months led me to nowhere. Well, I can tell about your planets, your parents and sometimes even your lover. But why am I not able to correlate mine. Maybe I was not able to understand it fully. How about reaching to third party vendors- the guruji’s, the astrologers. Turns out, they are as confused as I am. With everyone churning out there own untrue confused versions, you finally get to know, life can really play great damn tricks.
But what do you have to lose, apart from some years where you didn’t earn enough money, but you learned a lot of life lessons. Did I stop? No, never. Let’s see who’s better at throwing stuff. Me or someone who made my kundli or an Imaginary force.
Pursue what you believe is right, endlessly. If you think killing the next person or even yourself, would solve all the problems of this world, do that then. It’s not like I can stop you. You are the sole player of your life. You may either work towards a goal or different goals or you may just sit still. The choice is yours.
Do you have the guts to follow a life path, return back and follow another. Then there’s nothing to worry. You would get the best. Mark my words.
Thank you for keeping up with me to this point. If I helped you in any way or if you think that I have a point. Leave a comment below.